We are given so many conflicting pieces of information these days and told to do so much, or we ‘think’ we have to do certain things to conform or fit in, which can come from feelings of low self worth or not feeling ‘good enough’.
Social media, the news, newspapers, magazines etc. Eat more fruit and veg, do more exercise more, look this way or that, be the best mum, wife, colleague, be sporty, be creative, be successful, be grateful, be happy, walk more, shop more, more more more!
How about less and how about space to breathe and think and be you. How about just being.
How about having the time to do what you want to do not what you think you should do or what others are expecting you to do? How about for once in your life you take the time to find what you love, to find what you are good at whatever that may be but most of all find what you want to do because you want to do it and it makes you feel good and for no other reason than that?
Giving yourself the time to do nothing isn’t actually doing nothing, it gives your brain much needed down time to think, to process and much more importantly to be creative. Humans are innately creative and being in touch with our creative side has huge benefits. It is mindful, relaxing, lowers blood pressure, gives the body and mind time to ‘switch off’ and recuperate or heal, and can lead to inspiration, dreams being fulfilled and ideas on where to go next in your life that is the right path for you to take, it’s you being in your flow, not forced or rushed, and there is no ego involved. It’s all you for the right reasons finding your flow and direction.
This is who I am as a coach, (and soon to be counsellor) yes setting goals is great but not empty goals that are meaningless and just for the sake of them. Watching lots of coaching speak and training material that doesn’t sit comfortably with me is the pressure to perform and ‘do’, I am all about finding out who you are as a person, and using coaching as a way of developing your strengths so you can fulfil your potential and most importantly be happy. As they say there is more than one way to skin a cat. It doesn’t work for me to follow the crowd, or social media, I find great joy and fulfilment when I re-connect with myself through meditation, being creative and working with energy and in nature which enriches the relationship I have with myself, and therefore others as a result.
We have so much now, more than ever before, the stuff in our homes may be overwhelming and we can feel overloaded on the inside and the outside leading to stress and illness. Yet there is huge imbalance in the world and maybe in our lives. Balance is the key to everything with its root in nature.
Doing less, having less, and being more may be the way forward.
I much like many others have being spending the majority of the year clearing out not only unwanted things from my house but also unwanted and unhelpful things from my life and it is liberating, satisfying and freeing.
The more I get rid of the more I want to get rid of. Less is definitely more.
So don’t feel pressure to be someone or do something or have something that YOU don’t want to, take the time to find out who you are and what you want and give yourself the gift of TIME which is an investment in YOU.
Love Helen ❤️
As I sit here preparing for my Reiki 2 course tomorrow and also wondering about the kind of coach I am, I started to write down key words that resonate with me at the moment. I came up with words such as authentic, peace, harmony, balance, connection, happiness, and potential. That pretty much sums up what I try to strive towards and I don't always get it right, far from it! That is what it is to be human I guess.
Addiction is born out of pain and is the opposite of connection.
Pain is the opposite of peace and is born out of trauma (any kind of trauma, big or small).
we can often find that peace by connecting with ourselves and others.
I found myself contemplating what it is I love so much about Reiki and teaching Reiki, and this is what I have discovered;
Reiki is always there for me whenever I need it so it is certain, it grounds me, and enables me to nurture myself and centres me and helps me to reconnect with my spiritual side. It gives me time to breathe, think and is fantastic at helping with quality sleep (because it is so relaxing it prepares the body to do what it does best).
In connecting with my spiritual side I am also finding peace within as well as being present and fully in the moment I am in my flow, enjoying every second.
It helps to improve my relationship with myself, therefore improving my relationship with others through connection which brings inner clarity, a deep sense of relaxation, peace and harmony, which in turn gives me a great sense of wellbeing which enriches my life and therefore everyone else's life around me.
It enables me to let go of my ego which is a bag full of unhelpful emotions (at times) and behaviours and encourages me to get in touch with myself, connecting again.
It is all about connection and unity which in turn can create peace and happiness. At its core Reiki is love, which sounds at bit out there but who doesn't need love right?
I am aware that I have repeated myself several times here but it is to get the point accross that happiness does come from within, not from others or from things or possessions, but from within, and Reiki can be a huge doorway or access point for allowing this self love, self compassion, self acceptance and connection with self to grow and develop.
I may be preaching to the converted but there will be some of you out there who will resonate with this and if you do then Reiki may be for you.
Apart from all that Reiki stabilises the mind, body and spirit, is hugely relaxing and therefore a great way to calm the mind, alleviate anxiety, worry and stress which seem an all to familiar recipe in todays modern society.
Reiki is a fantastic way of allowing inner reflection and healing to take place, it encourages you to listen to your heart and intuition, so that you can follow your inner guide map which enables you to follow your true calling and is a great way to practice self development work.
It has many of the same benefits as meditation, yoga and mindfulness and is in fact a mindful practice.
Some of its benefits are;
I am a mum of 2 teenagers and aunty and carer for 1 more. I am a wife, a business woman, and spiritual healer . I am someone who has drive, ambitions and goals. I am someone who also has the same struggles as everybody else and passionately wants to help people to thrive and be the best version of themselves. I love to learn and grow and pass on my knowledge. I am learning to overcome my own barriers and fears - and by doing so will hopefully make a small (or large) difference to someone else's life.