I want to tell you about my own personal experience of past life regression therapy.
We opened our holistic wellbeing centre in 2011, I was open to all sorts and dabbling in tarot, psychic abilities, and all things spiritual and mystical as well as mainstream stuff such as aromatherapy, massage, meditation, sports massage, yoga and bodywork etc.
In one of my psychic readings I had been told that I had been a witch in a past life and this made me eager to want to find out more (I was naive). I booked myself in for a past life regression therapy session with someone who came highly recommended to me. I had no idea what to expect.
I arrived at her house and she talked me through the process. I laid down and she took me into a meditative state. I cant even tell you how it happened or why my subconscious brain cooked up what happened for me.
Picture the scene - an old farmhouse many many years ago, my mum stood eerily watching from an upstairs window in the distance.
Me with my dad standing over me in a field and a car coming towards us on a long dirt track.
I knew instinctively what was going to happen and it had happened many times before. I wont go into detail, nevertheless I can assure you it was a very unpleasant experience.
I think I was left in shock, I paid £120 for the experience and after it was over she just said that it had gone on longer than expected and to contact her if I deemed it necessary.
The next day I crashed the car. My head was all over the place.
This experience affected me deeply and it is only now that I think about it and that I am training to be a therapeutic counsellor that I get angry that it was allowed to happen at all.
I want to raise awareness of this kind of thing happening. The problem is anything otherworldly or not deemed as mainstream is unregulated, there are no regulations or codes of ethics to adhere to. Nothing protects the therapist or the client.
As a Therapist of many years, A Personal Coach, A Teacher and a Trainee Counsellor I have a code of ethics that I have to adhere to, I have memberships with associations which give advice on all sorts and are there to help to protect me and my clients, I have public liability insurances, I have to ask my clients to complete working agreements to ensure their safety and to ensure confidentiality.
I talk to my clients about the process I will go through in our first sessions together so that they are completely aware of what is going on.
I am at last finding my voice on this and so much more.
The subconscious makes up 95% of the human brain and it can play tricks on us, it tells us stories that are not always true and will always think of the worst case scenario first because it is there to protect us from danger, ie i'll look for the threat so I can protect myself.
I would love for more to be done to protect people from these kinds of experiences and hopefully by me sharing mine it will raise awareness of what can happen.
I'm not saying all experiences are bad, I am sure some people have lovely past life regression therapy sessions. What I am saying is I didn't and I didn't feel pre-warned or protected in any way. If writing this can stop someone from having the same experience then that would be a good start.
I'll leave this with you to contemplate, it is a very interesting and controversial subject.......do we really have past lives or is it just our subconscious brain cobbling together a story of it's own from the experiences that we have already lived?
Having conversations about death and dying isnt something that a lot of us do in ordinary every day life unless we are forced to because someone we know is dying or in fact we are faced with he prospect ourselves.
Even writing this is filling me with dread and panic.
I am brought to this subject after having the opportunity to meet a wonderful lady called Amanda Blainey who has written a book on Death and holds regular death cafe's as well as having regular podcasts on the subject.
I am putting a link to Amanda's website and book at the bottom of this blog post.
Amanda really made me think and I suppose that is the point, she inspired me to want to learn more.
We discussed how well people plan for life and how this can affect their death.
I believe that there is a relevance to coaching.
Does how well you live your life and the quality of life that you live effect how well you will die?
People come to coaching for a variety of reasons, but usually it’s because they feel a lack of clarity, direction or need help with a certain area of their life such relationships, finances, career, regrets, fears or undealt with trauma. Tackling unhelpful behaviours and habits which can stem from trauma, upbringing or fixed patterns of beliefs and behaviours is another reason for coaching or counselling. Generally feeling unhappy or unfulfilled for some reason and not knowing why or what to do about it.
At the end of life sometimes it can be a hard and traumatic experience for those who haven’t prepared for their financial situation, planned ahead, have unfinished or unresolved business with family or friends, or haven’t done the things that they wanted to do in life, and therefore might find achieving a peaceful death difficult.
Is peace something we are all searching for? How do we find it?
Learning about ourselves and finding compassion for others who we have previously blamed and resented for something we percieved that they 'did to us' can bring us a new understanding and healing which can in turn lead to peace, and a feeling of healing and wholeness which in turn can help us live our lives from a much nicer place. Would it then follow that death would become a much more peaceful and easier experience?
Coaching can help to complete the circle and bring clarity, understanding and peace in our lives. This also gives us a completely different perspective, and approach to how we do life which will affect how we do death.
Two other things that come to my mind which I believe are relevant are responsibility and motivation.
Is how we take responsibility for ourselves in life linked to how we take responsibility for our own death? As a coach I am not responsible for my clients and indeed one of my main objectives is to find a way forward where my clients can take responsibility for themselves and take ownership of their own destiny.
For me thinking about death and dying motivates me to want to lead a more authentic, fuller and richer life, grabbing opportunity by the hands and not allowing anything or anyone stand in my way. The prospect of death clearly brings my life into sharp focus.
I am a mum of 2 teenagers and aunty and carer for 1 more. I am a wife, a business woman, an entrapenuer. I am someone who has drive, ambitions and goals. I am someone who also has the same struggles as everybody else and passionately wants to help people to thrive and be the best version of themselves. I love to learn and grow and pass on my knowledge. I am learning to overcome my own barriers and fears - and by doing so will hopefully make a small (or large) difference to someone else's life.